Congratulations to all you newly engaged couples out there!
Why premarital counseling?
Identify and establish goals as a partnership
You and your partner will identify and establish goals as a partnership. There are a lot of life goals coming up when you decide to spend your life with someone and getting on the same page with those is incredibly important. Things like religion and spirituality, children, finances, in-laws, dealing with raising children, intimacy. How you want to be able to spend your life moving forward, where you want to live so many things can come up and it’s important that you and your partner go ahead and establish goals together. It’s important to get on the same page now prior to getting married
Help to navigate conflict
Every relationship has conflict. .That’s just the way it is. It’s important to find the most effective ways for you and your partner to communicate. Not every conflict is going to result in compromise and you and your partner are going to have to learn how to navigate that. Premarital counseling absolutely helps you get the skills and the tools to be able to do that.
Find shared values and meaning
Premarital counseling is it helps you find shared values and meaning from your relationship. You’ve chosen this person that you want to be with for a reason. They’re special to you and you want to keep that special. When you have shared meaning, when you have a shared life with this person, you find new things that you do just as a couple that helps bond you together. Premarital counseling can help you find the ways that you want to make your relationship special whether that’s every Tuesday we have tacos and that’s our thing as a family. Or whether it’s on Christmas you know pick out an ornament with each other. Whatever it is you want to be able to find that shared meaning with one another to keep this relationship central and a priority in your life. It’s important you’re always moving forward and working on your relationship trying to improve it trying to make it better. It’s important to be more intimate closer and feel more like a partnership with your partner. This is the person you’re choosing to be on a solid foundation with you to make decisions in life. You guys need to work through those things.
PS The ceremony is the BEST. PART.
Talking about these topics prior to marriage are important; that way you know when you’re walking down the aisle you’re not going to be just walking toward your fiance. You’re going to be walking toward your partner the person that you have chosen. The person that you’ve talked through these decisions with that you know you can work through conflict. That you know they are YOUR person and they’re your best friend. You get to be able to be with them! Make sure that you’re focusing not only on the wedding but focusing on creating the best marriage possible.